Working on yourself gives you a leg up over the general population stuck in unhappiness, sadness, victim consciousness, and other programmed realities 
they don’t know how to get out of. Everyone agrees that working through personal issues accelerates life forward in healthy ways. Looking inward at YOU is the key that unlocks a happy life. It’s not an unusual request to seek love, success, or wealth these days, regardless if you are on a spiritual path or not.
Whatever becomes programmed in your subconscious from childhood is what you’ll live and draw to you. Even though it’s unconscious to you, it’s still potent and acting on your behalf.
Thoughts and actions create energy. Energy doesn’t disappear, and you’ll need to resolve the energy by not re-judging it to experience inner peace and a quieter mind. Thoughts are generated from unresolved emotional memory. In other words, past buried experiences.
Example
You notice you keep drawing in men or women who are hurtful. To stop repeating the pattern, you need to look at what you are doing to hurt yourself. Where might you be lying to yourself or emotionally hurting yourself? Hurt isn’t current, instead, it’s something from the past that is not resolved. It’s difficult to see your issues and more helpful to see them in other people or talk about the hurt or anger issues. The more challenging part of healing is honestly looking at the past hurt and making peace with it.
It’s human conditioning to want to hurt others when in emotional pain. We are taught that “someone needs to pay for this.” And we hold energy towards the people who hurt us. On the awakening path and living happier life, you want to let go of the people energetically, so they don’t have power over you and continue to control your behaviors.
If you feel hurt by another person, here’s a powerful process to help move energy from past events.
Powerful Healing Process
Part One: Get a picture of the person you feel traumatized by, a mother or father, friend or stranger and place it somewhere you can see every day. Start talking to the picture. Yell or scream and get out everything you want to say. Don’t hold back. This healing process can take a few months. At first, you might not want to look at the person in the picture. Slowly you’ll start to look at the picture and dialogue with whoever hurt you in the past.
You might feel feelings you haven’t felt before or begin to cry. Allow yourself to feel and cry. You might get angrier. It’s all OK. Do not judge how you feel. Don’t say, “I shouldn’t be feeling this.” Or “I thought I let go of everything.” Allow feelings to surface, breathe, and breathe deeply.
Part Two: Imagine holding a weapon at that person. I’m not into weapons, if you aren’t either, use a bow and arrow. Imagine holding the bow, cocked for 15 or 20 years. It takes a tremendous amount of energy from you. Imagine dropping the weapon and letting go of the energy.
Take a deep breath, and walk over the weapon on the ground and away from the event in your mind. Imagine sitting at the beach or in a beautiful green meadow and placing your mind on the beauty around you. You are consciously changing your mind about the past hurt and event.
Part Three: Feel whatever is coming up. No criticizing of how you feel. Whatever you feel is valid. It’s not helpful to ask “why,” as in, “why did this happen to me?” Unless the other person is present, you will not get clear answers.
Other Solutions
Seek professional therapy
Meditation helps to untie mental knots and free the mind from guilt, shame, anger, hurt, or whatever you hold onto. Meditation is a longer process, especially if you don’t meditate daily and have not trained the mind to look inwards.
Buddha said, “Humans suffer because they are ignorant of what their minds can do.” How can you change your mind today?
